Keeping Up With Kelsey: Being A Working Mother

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Working Mothers

Working Mothers

Negaunee, MichiganSeptember 17, 2018 – If you’re a working mother, get ready; you’re about to totally relate to what I have to say.

It’s hard. SO hard.

Let’s back up now. That’s NOT to say that being a stay-at-home mom isn’t hard; it’s just hard in a different way. Kudos to you mamas who stay-at-home. I can’t even imagine.

But this is about those mothers who DO work outside the home. It is difficult. You leave your babies with a sitter, nanny, daycare provider, at school, a combo of all, etc. It can be heart-wrenching. I know it was/is for me, even now when Holden is in 1st grade.

Anyways, long story short, Holden was born in August, shortly before my second year of school would start at Northern Michigan University. My parents were still both working full-time, as were my future in-laws, so they were unable to help babysit much. And my now-husband and I HAD to continue working. Not working wasn’t an option. So, I was the lady hauling the stroller to class with me everyday. I was the lady who had to leave class to feed him if he was squalling. I was also the lady who had to drop him off at daycare in order to work.

I still remember what it was like living in a tiny basement level one bedroom apartment close to campus, and scraping together rent every month. We were very lucky to have parents that did help us as much as they could when we were in a real jam. But, we were still pretty poor, and we needed to bring in more money. We HAD to.

So, my now-husband picked up odd jobs in addition to his full-time work at the gas station. I zipped through school as much as I could, taking maximum credits every semester, and doing summer classes. I graduated with my bachelor’s in the winter of 2012, earning that 4 year degree in 3 ½ years. I had worked my butt off, and so had my husband. However, I had to go to work immediately, or we were never going to make it. I HAD to work.

After I graduated, we both worked full-time (50+) hours/week, and still were barely making it. My son had to go to daycare full-time at this point. It was necessary that we were a two income family.

Being A Working Mother

Being A Working Mother

It was so hard to leave him with the daycare professionals. Not because I was worried about them – the daycare professionals were absolutely wonderful, and my son still loves them all like family to this day – but because he was crying as I left. Wanting to come with me. My heart just broke into a million little pieces. My baby! How could I leave him? His little face screwed up into a little red ball, and then he let loose the most horrible screech. Once I reached my car, I fell apart. Sobbing, I made my way to work.

It is a very hard decision that many families like mine must make. But I can confidently say that bringing my son to daycare has beenn’t take this as a personal dis – like I said earlier, I give you stay-at-home mamas mad props for doing what you do. But I’ve found that even though I felt extreme guilt for working all throughout Holden’s life, it’s been the very best thing for our family.

Now that my husband and I have good jobs, we can provide for each other and Holden much more than we ever could. If I would have stayed home, I don’t believe we would be in this position. I believe we would still be barely scraping by. So for that, I am thankful. a very positive experience. He learned social skills he wouldn’t have learned early on otherwise (he is an only child). He got a leg up for preschool by learning shapes, colors, numbers, and letters just by hanging out with the older kids at some points. He learned to play well with others. There are honestly many more positives I could list, but I won’t drag it out.

Deciding Daycare

Deciding Daycare

The point is, my family had to make the difficult decision to go with daycare, and it was a positive experience. Being a working mother is HARD. But daycare has given my son experiences I couldn’t give him myself. And, I actually like working. It gives me a sense of purpose I know that I, personally, wouldn’t feel if I were to stay home. It gives me the satisfaction of a job well done when I complete personal tasks and goals assigned to me. And I enjoy it. I LIKE working.

Now, if you don’t work, PLEASE don’t take this as a personal dis – like I said earlier, I give you stay-at-home mamas mad props for doing what you do. But I’ve found that even though I felt extreme guilt for working all throughout Holden’s life so far, it’s been the very best thing for our family. Now that my husband and I have good jobs, we can provide for each other and Holden much more than we ever could have if I would have stayed home. I believe we would still be barely scraping by if I had. So for that, I am thankful.

Are you a working mom, or a stay at home mom? What has your experience been like, and why did you choose what you did? Drop your experience in the comments below!

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